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Over the past few months, things in my life have been better than

ever. New home, new friends, and wonderful career. Yet I found

myself uncharacteristically asking, “Self, why am I feeling so

frustrated? Why am I getting upset at the smallest of



I did a little digging (soul searching, if you will) and realized

that as wonderful as things were going at the moment, like most

of us, I had some unfinished business out there.


There were a handful of people and negative relationships that

were still on my mind and wanted to do something about it.


What I came up with was the realization that out of all the

people or things I was angry with, none of them (did I believe)

truly meant to cause me harm. In other words, they had no intent

for malice; it was only the interpretation of the event or

situation that caused me anger and pain.



Think about this for a second. How many times have you gotten

into arguments over the silliest of things, only to later realize

how foolish you were being and to acknowledge that you’d simply

gotten caught up in the moment?


After pondering this question for a bit, I decided to do

something I should have done long ago. I thought about the few

relationships in my life that were less than perfect or had ended

on a sour note. I then committed myself to research what had

caused the upheaval and to do my best to rectify the

relationships that lacked a harmful intent.


I asked myself whether my ex-wife had really intended to slander

me with the things she said, or whether she’d been speaking

through her frustration and uncertainty of losing a relationship

that she had shared for over half her lifetime. Had my father

intended to discard our relationship, or was he simply avoiding

me to save himself from having to deal with his own ex-wife who

may have said some terrible things to him as well?


Get the picture?


Now, as personal as this is, I share it with you this month

because what happened next was truly amazing. By taking action

toward repairing the past and eliminating the negative feelings I

was carrying, I rekindled some of the best relationships I’d ever



Look, I’m not asking you to play God and pretend to know what

people think. However, you can use common sense and make an

educated guess. For example, if someone borrows your car and

crashes it, ask yourself whether they meant to do it. More than

likely, they didn’t, so why end a relationship over it? However,

if someone takes a bat to your car and smashes it to pieces,

you’re probably safe in assuming they had a negative intent.


Now let me ask you, do you have any relationships that may have

been severed from an accident or misunderstanding? In retrospect,

do you think the person truly intended to destroy, upset, or

provoke you? Was a bat involved, or just angry words and

misguided thoughts? If you can’t find evidence of a harmful

intent, pick up the phone, say hello, and let go of your



Let it go, let it go- let it go.



Keep Smilin',


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By: Keynote Speaker Gregory Scott Reid

Speaker and two-time #1 best-selling author,

The Millionaire Mentor and Wake Up: Live the Life You Love